1. Modern Man in Contemporary Culture, Dan Erickson and Dan Schaffer
If our ministry to men is going to be successful, we must develop a system that will help men to form significant and lasting friendships. Without vital relationships between our men, too many men will continue to feel lonely, isolated, and without hope. When building our ministry, we must focus primarily on establishing relationships, not on developing programs. A successful ministry to men will encompass the following key components of a man’s life; identity, friendship, God’s calling, discipline, marriage and family skills and stewardship.
2. What is Men’s Ministry? Steve Sonderman
Essentials of men’s ministry:
Focus on relationships, not programs.
Communicate clear goals.
Target men’s ministry exclusively for men.
Get your pastor’s support and support your pastor.
Build a ministry leadership team with a core group of men.
Avoid implementing too much too soon.
Minister with flexibility and variety.
3. Vision that Drives Ministry, Vince D’Acchioli
Plan your strategy:
What are the unique needs of the men in your congregation and community?
What will a successful ministry to men look like?
How will you measure success?
What are some obstacles that men face in their spiritual development?
What are some challenges that your church faces in addressing men’s needs?
Which specific topics do men need to understand in order to grow spiritually?
How can you best design a systematic, precept-upon-precept approach for teaching your men?
4. Getting Things Right – The First Time, Gary Bateman
Begin by assessing the leadership and infrastructure group. Take a look at the mission and vision of your church.
Second, seek to understand the men in your church. What are their interests, needs, levels of current involvement, and availability?
The third area for assessment is the target or outreach group. The church whose ministry to men is seeking to reach out will want to understand the “neighbor” they want to reach.
5. The Pastor’s Role, Jack Hayford
At the church’s beginning, the pastoral task was essentially wrapped up in two phrases; (1) pour yourself out, as pastor to men, and (2) teach those men to do the same, man to man.
Part Two: Preparing the Ground
6. Building a Leadership Team, Chip MacGregor
Ministry works best in teams. A ministry team will jump-start your outreach to men and position you for future growth. Your aim should be to develop three to five men who will form your core leadership team. There are five qualities to look for in the men you desire to lead your ministry: servant spirit, character, godliness, passion, and giftedness.
7. Organizing Your Men’s Ministry, Steve Sonderman
Once you have a gifted leader in place who has a vision, passion, and the character to lead the ministry, your next step is to pray.
Include your pastor early.
Develop a game plan.
Craft a purpose statement.
Structure your ministry.
Establish a timeline.
Advertise your ministry.
Evaluate your ministry.
8. Purposeful Planning, Effective Implementation, Steve Sonderman
Special events are the easiest way to get a men’s ministry going.
It’s easy to stage a momentum-generating event, but keeping a strong, vibrant, focused ministry together over the long haul is much more difficult.
9. Upside-Down Leadership, Stacy Rinehart
Putting others first and serving their needs is a supernatural act of humility. It requires God’s work in us and through us. The heart of spiritual leadership, following the pattern of Jesus, is serving those around you and relating to them as peers before Jesus. serving them not for what you can get but for what they can get by way of intimacy with Jesus and faithfulness to his call on their lives.
10. Foundations of Christian Leadership, Chuck Stecker
What are the primary characteristics of a godly leader? From the first chapter of the book of Daniel, I have gleaned four foundational traits of leadership from God’s perspective: total commitment, submission to authority, accountability, and intentional reproduction.
11. The Mark of Leadership, Dan Schaffer
The key to effectively changing our men’s ministries lies with the leadership team. To lead men forward with integrity, our leaders must be the firstfruits of God’s work in the hearts of the men in the church.
Part Three: Laying the Foundation
12. Getting Men to Jesus, Gordon England
How can we explain the spiritual concept of knowing or relating to God? Here are four images that most men readily identify with. 1. God as Father. 2. Jesus Christ as the older brother. 3. Christians as co-laborers together with Christ. 4. Called to a noble, sacrificial task.
13. Teaching Men to Pray, Dale Schlafer
Once a level of comfort has been reached in praying the Scriptures, you can help men to understand the various parts of the prayers they have already been praying. Examples of adoration, confession, thanksgiving, supplication, and intercession are laced throughout the prayers they have been reading from the Bible.
14. Learning to Worship
The first thing we must do is to establish the truth that men don’t sacrifice their masculinity by lifting praise to God.
The process of building vital relationships among men can be likened to a baseball diamond. Each base represents a stage of development: Acquaintances, Friendship, Brotherhood, Christlikeness
16. Overcoming Prejudice, Robert Sena
What can you do to combat the sin of prejudice?
Stop demanding that everyone be just like you.
Stop insisting that everything be done your way.
Repent of your prejudice toward other races and ethnic cultures.
Seek opportunities to make friends across racial and cultural lines.
Learn to celebrate your own culture.
Learn to celebrate other cultures.
Understand the difference between a process orientation and a task orientation.
Be willing to allow minority persons to fail.
Differentiate between race and culture.
Part Four: Building the Framework
17. Transforming Your Men’s Ministry, Rod Cooper
A transformational environment is characterized by the following four traits:
1. Acceptance and security
4. Loving accountability
18. Becoming a Spiritual Parent, Phil Downer
If you ask the Lord for the name of one man you can disciple and form an alliance wit’ spending time with him, holding him accountable, and developing a relationship that will thrive as you both mature through the spiritual life cycle – you’ll find that you have a friend who is closer than family.
19. Working with Men who Fail, Steve Farrar
In our society, loneliness usually results from social isolation, which can be highly destructive for men. In our men’s ministries, we must create opportunities for men to connect in genuine friendship, support, and encouragement.
20. Men of All Colors, Unity in Diversity, Haman Cross and Thomas Fritz
Diversity is good. the church is a heterogeneous body, a pluralistic body made of varying races and ethnic groups, as millions are added to the body seeking the abundant life promised.
21. From Success to Significance, Phil Downer with Chip MacGregor
To become a man of significance, you have to invest yourself in the lives of other men. You must commit yourself to helping someone else mature in the faith.
Part Five: Creating the Structure
22. Training Men for Significance, Chuck Brewster
If we desire to be like Christ, the Father must be within us and we must be trained to react the way God wants us to. We must be full of the Holy Spirit, available to teach and be taught, willing to work for his goals, not our own, obedient unto death, willing to stretch beyond our own strength so that God can be our strength, living pure lives and making holiness a priority.
23. Becoming Irresistible Husbands, Ed Cole
The irresistible husband is an honest man. Honest with God, with himself, and with his wife. Repentance is necessary to the saving of a soul or a marriage.
24. Fathers and Sons, Steve Farrar
Saving our boys requires more than just our physical presence in the home. Emotional distance is an even greater danger for our boys than a father’s absence from the home.
25. Life-Changing Short-Term Missions, Warren Hardig
Going on a missions trip lets you use your talents and testimony to reach people across the lines of race and culture. Everybody has a testimony, and no one can dispute your eyewitness account of what God has done in your life. Every man has life experiences that God can use to reach someone who is going through the same thing or someone who has the same interests.
26. Successful Men’s Retreats, Larry Kreider
Don’t underestimate the amount of time and energy it will take to plan a successful retreat. If the work falls on too few shoulders, you are primed for disappointment and burnout. It is best to have the next year’s retreat chairman serve on this year’s committee so that he will go into his year of leadership responsibilities with his eyes wide open.
Conclusion: Doing Together What We Can’t Do Apart, Willie Richardson
This book serves as a reminder that we can do some things together that we cannot do apart. We need leaders of the same mind-set and heartbeat, men who have a passion for ministering to other men.